In fact, it injures him with the opposite result. And again – never accomplishes what you think it will. When he fixes the bed – for example – and you follow behind him showing him the “correct way” immediately after he finishes, he is reminded he doesn’t measure up to your standards.Ĭonstantly badger him – If he doesn’t do what you want him to do and you remind him. Go behind him (and correct him) when he tries to do something at home – When you always show him how much better you can do things than he can do them, his ego is injured. If they do eventually address it it will be out of stored up resentment – maybe anger – and it won’t be pretty. Put him down in front of other people – Most men will not counter this type of humiliation in public – if ever. Here are 7 ways a wife injures her husband (without even knowing it): I consulted with my wife about it – 7 Ways a Husband Injures His Wife…Without Even Knowing It. As a man, I feel most prepared to address this side of the issue. Which led me to this post – addressing the ways wives injure their husbands – without even knowing it. Those issues impact us all – and our leadership. Mostly that’s by addressing leadership issues, but sometimes I address the issues dealing with relationships – families – marriage – children. Even though I have a degree in counseling, this is simply a blog where I want to help people. Thankfully, they’re in a great season to ask hard questions – learn valuable lessons – and strengthen the marriage. There’s a great chance she has questions about the relationship also. It didn’t take long before I realized, however, this marriage is heading for disaster if they don’t address their issues soon. I was proud of him for being humble enough to ask if this was normal in a marriage. And he’s withdrawn to the point that he was willing to admit his hurt – which is difficult for any man to do. He even recognizes his reaction as a defense mechanism. Over the course of the last few months he’s began to realize how many things his wife is saying and doing that are causing him to pull away from her. Plus, we often injure most those we love the most. Marriages are made of two very different, imperfect people. (Make sure you read the companion post to this one about how the husband injures the wife.) And he doesn’t even know he’s doing it to her. Sometimes those are the worst kind of hurts.Īnd she – most likely – doesn’t even know she’s doing it.
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